For the handful of dear readers who having been checking out my blog activity and have been disappointed since September…Thank you for your patience and your continued interest in what I have to say.
This will be a rambling post to catch you up, and then I hope to be able to touch base on a more regular basis.
Where do I start? I’m 8 months into motherhood, and I’ve been quite overwhelmed by the balancing act that life is when one becomes a mom, returns to work and then is expected to keep everything working smoothly in both arenas. I’ve chosen to take a laid back approach to motherhood, and am finding that works well for me. There are moments, however, when I wonder “If I’m overwhelmed now, what would it be like if I really got worked up about things?”
I took an online writing class for Writer Mamas in October and November with the idea that learning how to launch a freelance career would help me transition from working away from home to working at home. I learned a ton from the class, but one of the greatest lessons was that one person can only do so many things at once. Freelance writing really is hard work, and while I’m encouraged by my teacher’s comments as to my skill and publishability, this simply is not the time to do it. Clearly, since I can’t seem to blog more than once a quarter.
I’m actively pursuing celebrating a Christmas season that is unfettered by all of the commercial trappings that overwhelms and stresses out so many. In some ways, I’ve succeeded. I’ve placed my WillowTree Nativity on my entertainment center, and just tonight talked to Cadence about Baby Jesus and how he was born to help people and love them. I was practicing keeping the story simple and meaningful for future conversations. I think I wrapped it up in a nutshell. For those of us who have a relationship with Jesus, I’d say his helping and loving me is a considerable comfort.
I’m listening to Sarah McLachlan’s Wintersong album over and over. For me, it is one of the most soulful, worshipful Christmas albums. I am ministered by beautiful instruments, harmony, and amazing voices like hers.
I’ve modified my Christmas card this year and believe I’ve found a new format that I will stick with. Photo with greetings that fit on a 3×4 label affixed on the back. The photo includes the entire Mahoney Trio, not just the babygirl. I have strong opinions that when sending Christmas photos the entire family should be included. I love seeing my friends kids, but if I’ve never met them and haven’t seen my friends for a long time, I’d prefer to see my friends first and then their children second. Seeing my daughter in the context of her two parents makes recognizing that she completely takes after her dad (at this stage) far more fun (to me) than just seeing her. I think I’m on to something because I’ve received several e-mails, notes etc mentioning how much Mahoney Christmas card recipients enjoyed the picture.
My final traditional ritual, reading Christmas on Jane Street is on my list next. I bought the book one Christmas when I was alone in Kansas City, and decided I was going to read it every season. I have missed one year in ten (or nine?)–the December we lost my husband’s mother. That holiday season was so shocking and painful I didn’t have the energy for it.
Christmas morning is going to be something especially wonderful with Cadence’s and Luke’s sweet baby presence. I am reminded by some friends who are enduring indescribable loss of a child and frightening, sudden illness that Christmas means different things for different people at different times in life. My best friend’s arms are emptiest this year as she mourns her Anna’s short life; my arms are full of chubby, smiley wonderful Cadence. My heart and mind have struggled for months on such drastically different experiences occurring at the same time. How is it that I can be experiencing the greatest joy of my life while my friend experiences the greatest heartache? My 115-pound frame carries that weight like a boulder, and try as I might I can’t seem to dislodge it, unload it, or provide her with a sense of my deep longing for her health, healing, and wholeness.
When Cadence was born, I developed a heart condition: a mother’s broken, empathetic heartache for the suffering and pain of children and individuals in general. I’m praying for patience and understanding for myself and healing and peace for those who find themselves aching for something more.
May your holiday season be rich with family connection, quiet reflection, and the presence of Spirit, Love, and Joy–no matter what circumstances you find yourself in this Christmas season 2007.
Prayerfully yours until my next post.